TALK TO THEM
Growing up is hard. And whether they communicate it or not, your teen wants to know you care. Your simple presence and conversation lets them know you care, and that goes a long way.
SPEAK THEIR LANGUAGE
No, that doesn’t mean learning the latest slang. Teenagers are often more comfortable communicating via email or text message than face-to-face. Meet them where they’re comfortable: Digitally.
SPOT THE STRENGTHS
Spend time spotting your teen’s strengths and acknowledging when they use them. Encourage your teen to focus on their strengths rather than their weaknesses.
REMIND THEM OF THEIR WORTH
In a world so shaped by the internet and social media, the pressure to measure up is huge. Remind your teen that their worth is not based on their achievements or appearance.
PRAISE THEM
We all need encouragement. But it’s especially important during the teenage years. Praise your child for accomplishments and also effort, but also when they might fail to reach the desired results.
BE GRACIOUS WITH MISTAKES
Teach them to stay proud of themselves rand to keep trying in spite of mistakes–explain that everyone makes mistakes and it’s ok to fail but to try again.
OFFER YOUR VULNERABILITY
Discuss things you’ve done that might have been scary or tough for you to do, showing your child that you’ve also been through times when you’ve needed confidence.
SHOW THEM HOW TO EXUDE CONFIDENCE
Help them look and feel more confident by teaching them how to walk tall and smile. Even if they don’t feel confident, they’ll look it and others will think they’re confident.
PROVIDE SUPPORT ON DIFFICULT TASKS
Growing up means learning to expand our window of tolerance for difficult tasks. Provide close support and encouragement with the tasks you know your teen will find challenging.
PAY ATTENTION
If you notice a lack of confidence is really affecting your child, suggest they speak to their school counsellor or a teacher, coach, or spiritual leader they trust.
ADDITIONAL RESOURCES